I was a great mommy before I had kids. Were you? I had all kinds of ideas of how I was going to do things right with my own precious angels.
But somehow, between the laundry, food prep/cleanup, the mitten issue, running back and forth to schools, brushing hair, changing diapers, homework, and all the million other pressing needs of life, some of the important stuff has fallen by the wayside.
That’s got to change.
I don’t want to look back at these years with regret. I want to look back with joy at the relationships I made with my children when they were young. I want us all to remember fondly the fun, special times we had. I want them to think of me as a patient, happy mommy, not a frustrated, rushed, grumpy one.
And I don’t really think it’s only about letting chores go. We all need to do laundry, cook dinner, and take our kids to school. It’s all well and good to let dust bunnies lie (goodness knows I have more than my share if you are short), but the advice to let your housework go because kids grow too fast doesn’t work in the real world.
Somehow, people want clean underwear each morning. (I know! Demanding!)
I think it has to do more with the attitude in our hearts.
There are so many mornings when I am short with my girls. Of course, we are running late (what else is new), but snapping at them really doesn’t help them brush their teeth any more quickly. Rolling my eyes doesn’t get the backpacks packed or the coats zipped. Getting frustrated doesn’t load them in the car.
And all too often, I have indulged in snapping, frustration, and anger with my children. I want this cycle to end. Prayerfully, with the strength of Christ, I want to be the mommy my kids deserve.
I want to be a mommy who is:
…quicker to laugh than scold
…ready to say yes unless I need to say no (instead of the opposite)
…encouraging with loving words more often than correcting with harsh ones
…generous with eye contact and smiles
…patient when children ask a million questions that are really all the same
…willing to let little hands “help,” and even offer to include them before they ask
…open with how Jesus is changing me each day
…ready with an apology when I mess up
…quick to get down to a child’s level and correct with grace, instead of yelling across the room
Will you come along with me on my journey? Each week, I would like to focus on one of these areas in my mothering. It’s not going to be pretty, but hopefully with time and God’s grace, my selfishness will start to be chipped away.
What’s on your list? Are you the Mommy you want to be, or are there areas you need to work on, too? Tell me I’m not the only one!